Words to Ponder #21
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Words to Ponder #21

Words to Ponder #21

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For the next few months I’ll be using “Words to Ponder” to share some words of Fred Newman—the public philosopher, creator of social therapy, political activist, “architect” of a new progressivism, and my friend and intellectual partner for 35 years. I hope you are moved and/or provoked by them.

The following is an excerpt from “The Improvisational Activity of Developing”—Dialogue 3 (pp. 58-61) in Psychological Investigations: A Clinician’s Guide to Social Therapy (edited by Lois Holzman and Rafael Mendez, 2003, Routledge).

Therapist-in-training: How is social therapy developmental?

Fred: From the point of view of development, I have come to believe that we are better off relating to life as continuous happenings, continuous emerging processes, complex social activity, rather than as things happening to things. Periodically we impose commodified forms on continuous emerging processes because it has a certain utility. For example, it’s useful to know where things are on the kitchen shelf. The problem is that we leave ourselves vulnerable to coming to see the world in terms of what’s on the kitchen shelf as opposed to the processes which got them there and which get them off.

I try to help people to take a look at what we do together. We engage in a certain human life process together, and the discovery of who we are is the discovery of what it is that we are continuously becoming. The notion that we discover who we are from getting a deeper look at the component parts that make us up is, in my opinion, a pernicious myth. We aren’t who we are. We are what it is that we are continuously becoming.

It’s very easy to hear this as completely intelligible, but as metaphorical. But metaphor is a relative term. After all, one person’s metaphor is another culture’s reality. Ours is a culture of commodified “being” in which “becoming” tends to be related to as a metaphor, at best.   What I try to do in my therapeutic work is to help people to relate to becoming not as a metaphor, but as activity. Given our culture, what people tend to do, quite understandably, is to commodify activity itself, and to say, “I see, you mean by activity another kind of thing.” But no, I don’t mean another kind of thing, what I mean by activity is not a thing at all. What I mean by activity is the complex, ever continuous social process that we are all continuously involved in; I mean by it life. Life is filled with things. But life itself is not a thing, although it is related to by all kinds of people, including the insurance companies, as a thing. You can understand why the insurance companies would relate to life as a thing. It’s their business. That’s fine. But I have no interest in living my life as if I were a thing, and I have no interest in relating to other people as if they were things.

To the extent that human beings come to recognize that life is the activity of living—and not the periodic identification of the components of our lives as certain things—they are helped to deal with the difficulties, the labels, the pains, the unhappiness, the distress, the emotional disorders which are inextricably related to the commodification of human life. This is what we have come to understand as we continue to practice and develop social therapy.

Therapist-in-training: Are there certain things that social therapy tries to develop?

Fred: For years, people have asked us, “Doesn’t your concept of development, either explicitly or implicitly, include some kinds of particular things that you want to develop? Doesn’t the notion of development have to have an end?” That characterization is a distortion of what it is that we’re doing. We’re trying to help people develop. To practice the art of development. To create with other people in their lives and to build their lives in the ways that they choose. I don’t think we have some kind of hidden agenda. Yes, many of us in this room would agree on some things that would be good to develop. But people will have to creatively determine for themselves what is to be developed. This is a big improvisation; this is not a scripted play—not mine, yours, nor anybody else’s. After all, you can learn something about acting and performing, but it doesn’t mean for a moment that you’re going to perform a beautiful play. Some of the most highly skilled actors perform terrible plays. Why? That’s what they get paid for, that’s where their tastes lie, who knows?

To me, it’s analogous to democracy. I am deeply committed to the position that what needs to be created is an increasingly democratic society. Many people who call themselves progressives say to me, “Why are you pushing so hard for democracy? Don’t you realize that if we had democracy the majority of the American people would support and enact positions that are antithetical to what is politically correct?” I frankly believe that we have to create a greater democracy and take our chances on that.

Likewise, I think we have to take our chances with development, which means that people might develop some things that you might not think are so nice. But the argument that you should stop development or steer it in a particular direction on the grounds that that might happen is ultimately elitist. That implies a certain power structure where some people give lip service to development and/or democracy but really hold to the position, “Here are the most valid kinds of decisions to be reached and goals to be set.”

Therapist-in-training: There may be the alternative of combining development with certain kinds of goals.

Fred: You might be right, but my experience is that when people slip in goals then development gets shaped in such a way as to achieve those goals. Goals tend to be over-determining. We haven’t as a species taken this risk yet and we’ve gotten into big trouble anyhow. It’s not as if the goal-oriented approaches have worked out beautifully! Maybe this is the essence of what I take postmodernism to be; maybe we’re at a moment in history where we’re going to have to take our chances with development. Maybe it’s time to find out if we can get better and better at this stuff—and if we are going to destroy ourselves or not. Maybe the moment of truth is at hand and we should find it out once and for all, rather than just quietly murdering millions and millions of people in the name of good goals.

 

3 Comments
  • loisholzman
    Posted at 16:47h, 08 February

    Thanks, Richard! Love this that you said—There’s little or no face time given to the ongoing process of ever-emergent understanding through activity — just effete, quantified Understanding, unhitched to processual messy activity. Yuck.
    Double Yuck.
    I wish you could have met Fred too.

  • Richard Patik
    Posted at 07:17h, 02 February

    Yes. Yes. Yes.
    Some thoughts after reading these Words to Ponder..

    In our culture nearly everywhere there is exclusive and judgmental emphasis on product, results, “understanding”, doing it right, looking right, sounding right, being the fastest, most efficient, hippest, strongest, sexiest, richest, most powerful — ad nauseum. There’s little or no face time given to the ongoing process of ever-emergent understanding through activity — just effete, quantified Understanding, unhitched to processual messy activity. Yuck.

    We ask someone, “Can you play or sing the song?” Not, “Did you enjoy the process of learning to play or sing the song? (And wasn’t it easier?).” You better not show your messy tries and mistakes and off-keys — that’s to be hidden away in favor of someone who can “just do it”, sans process or very little process — you know, like, child prodigies supposedly do right out of the box. Even if there are a few who can perform things relatively effortlessly, or “processlessly”, most people require a messy process to develop anything — new performances. Instead, the “chaff” of process is separated from the “wheat” (product) and cast to the wind — like we do in traditional schools. The best part is thrown out. Because of the [economic system-driven] shaming of process in our culture so much never even gets attempted. And people settle into boring, role-dominated lives like so many others around them — which is called “life” but is more like a living death. That’s a damn shame.

    Einstein said we are all geniuses. I also believe, and more importantly, have seen from personal experience that talent is mostly a matter of perseverance. What organizes a performance of not trying an activity is shaming judgment that makes a person stop, look away, and get caught up in abstractions and “understandings” of why one can’t try or keep trying. I had a guitar instructor who told me more than once when I would launch into a activity-less abstract justification of why I could’t try playing part of a song — he’d say, “You don’t have time for that — you have to keep going!” On a couple occasions he’d take my limp hand and move it across the strings (in time) to get me moving. And that little push into activity made a huge difference. I saw that I could keep going if I’d just perform rather than complain. Another instructor (of voice) said, “It’s very hard to succeed when you’re trying not to fail.” Best advice I ever received.

    It’s gonna take a lot of love to change the way things are. Love is, I have come to believe, developmental activity — with others.

    But anyway, I love Fred Newman’s ideas. Wish I could have met him.

    Thanks for sharing.

  • Diane
    Posted at 04:25h, 02 February

    Thanks.

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